Shit (venting inside)

"Your boy, BJR" (jerseyshoreben)
04/15/2014 at 12:42 Х Filed to: rants

Have a Daytona for your troubles. So I just got some news that SUCKS DONKEY ASS. My best friend, favorite person in the whole world, the one person (who isn't my mom) that I trust with everything, and knows more about me than anything else, is moving to Oregon permanently this summer. I guess you could kinda say she's also the love of my life. We've been friends since elementary school, BEST FRIENDS since high school. It really sucks because, well, like I said, I'm hopelessly in loge with her. I let her know, too, and at first she said she sees me as a brother, but more recently has been absurdly flirty, and hanging on me when we hang out, cuddling up next to me when we watch movies. Anyway, she's like, literally my favorite person in the world, and it's really making me sad that she's moving to the exact opposite side of the country. She wants me to come to texas with her this summer (she's going to visit her sister for awhile in austin), and I really want to, but, shitЕЕ..just picking up and leaving. I'm gonna miss her.

Here's the whole crew 2 christmases ago. Now Ryan (the hippie looking kid) and Dany (the snookie lookalike) broke up, and he's become kinda an asshole, Chris, my brother, 2nd from left has a girlfriend now and no more time to hang out, Zach and Jill (the little couple) Zach, made a few mil in bit coin and is always traveling the country talking to investors and Jill decided to go all suburban mom on us (her idea of a good time is half price appetizers at apple bees) and then There's me, and I've been through a ton of shit and probably seem completely different to everyone, and Kelly, who is moving to oregon.

Growing up fucking sucks, man.

DISCUSSION (29)

Frank Grimes > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:46

you are young.

Your boy, BJR > Frank Grimes
04/15/2014 at 12:47

I'm 20 and 1/2 thank you very much!

505Turbeaux > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:49

it doesn't suck entirely, Oregon is a great place to visit, or maybe you should have your own little adventure. Drive her out there or something and see if anything clicks. All that costs is a couple meals out and a plane ticket! Plus a road trip!

ttyymmnn > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:49

Go to Austin ( where I am right now, incidentally) and see what happens. They have this new-fangled thing called "The Internet" that all the kids are using to keep in touch these days. In my day, we had to make phone calls or even write letters. I'm not trying to make light of your situation. Most of us have been there before. If you two stay together in spite of the separation, then it was meant to be. And it's much easier to keep a long distance friendship than a long distance relationship. Best of luck to you both.

Leadbull > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:49

Is the bitcoin dude your age?

I can't imagine being around my current age and having millions.

Frank Grimes > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:50

get off my lawn.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:51

Tell me about it... I had a girl move to Arizona on me. Recently we hung out in Chicago, we both happened to be there, and it reminded me just how much i like her, there is just some kind of chemistry between us. Good news is, she is actually going to be moving to Chicago.

What I am saying is. Still go to Texas with her, your paths may cross again + you want to keep good friends like that around. I have friends all over the country and we make a point of staying in contact, it's good. Sometimes those people will end up living closer to you once again.

CalzoneGolem > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:52

A lot of shit happens between 20 and 30. There's still hope for you two.

Also, only young people include the fraction of the year.

Oh shit I just figured out I'm 33.967 years old.

Your boy, BJR > Frank Grimes
04/15/2014 at 12:53

Keep your hair on, grandad!

Your boy, BJR > Leadbull
04/15/2014 at 12:53

He's 2 years older.

Leadbull > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:56

That's too young to settle for Applebee's.

Your boy, BJR > 505Turbeaux
04/15/2014 at 12:57

That's my other problem- she's driving from NJ to TX, going to stay there like a months and a half or so, and then up to OR. She really wants me to do the whole trip with her ("Having someone come slog would be awesome, and you're the only person in the world I wouldn't get sick of") And I would LOVE TO. But- I'm unemployed currently (so no money to save for the trip) and if I DO get a job, how am I gonna be like "yo dawg i need the end of june through the beginning of august off"?

Frank Grimes > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 12:59

now that we got the formalities out of the way let me slowly ease back into my rocking chair scratch my chin and give you some advice that I think you will find amazing simply because I am old.

Tell her how you feel before she is gone which it seems you have done once. Ask her on a date. find some time appropriate to ask her how she feels. If she isnt interested it will be easier to move on and let her go. If she still is then maybe the log distance staying in touch will work. But to be honest I dont give it much chance she will want to date people around her and stuff. You are still young and its hard but maybe you should just move on.

All this is easier said than done. And I may not be the best one to be giving advice but somehow i feel like a genius and can come up with some half decent crap when its someone elses life.

desertdog5051 > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:00

Life goes on. Savor the memories.

Your boy, BJR > Leadbull
04/15/2014 at 13:00

Right? They're cool and all, just Jill grew up a REALLY sheltered suburban life, and Zach has no friends other than our crew, so he'll tag along with jill everywhere. He's already looking at "A nice 4 bedroom split level in colonial terrace" (the most suburban of all the local suburbs)

505Turbeaux > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:02

yeah that is a bit raw of a deal. I have literally done it twice in my life where I quit my job, packed my ass up, and been out on an adventure like that. Actually pretty close to your age. I wish the situation was different and you had a couple months to bag cash or some sort of support. If it was a straight trip out that would be one thing. Damn son

Your boy, BJR > 505Turbeaux
04/15/2014 at 13:04

That's one of my motivations for selling the Bimmer. It won't be much, but it's better than the "some loose change" I have now.

505Turbeaux > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:07

one life lesson learned, never sell your assets for a temporary thing or a trip. Unless you have another car, or can parlay the cash into something cheaper. In that case great. Just remember you need a car to get a job, to go make a visit, to go see the left coast (it is gorgeous up there), to get back from the airport, to get back to your job!

Your boy, BJR > 505Turbeaux
04/15/2014 at 13:08

I have a 2012 SonataЕ..the 2002 I've never even drove (don't run)

Ducky > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:09

sounds like she wants all the emotional support of a boyfriend but none of the commitment requirements.

you either need to make a move, make this completely platonic, or cut her out dude.

505Turbeaux > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:09

oh yeah thats right! Yeah screw it then. Project car vs cash in your pocket? Cash money!

jariten1781 > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:11

My wife and my geographical history:

Both grew up in Oklahoma

I went to Texas she stayed in OK for a year then moved to Texas

I went to FL she stayed in TX

We both went to SC (got married at this point)

I went to CT she stayed in SC

I went to Hawaii she went to OR

She went to WA

I joined her in WA

We both moved to VA

Geography isn't too hard to work around these days.

PushToStart > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:11

shit dude... That sucks... Here's what I'll say:

Go with her. If you don't, you might end up kicking yourself forever for not. Road trips are fun when you're with the right people, and it would be a really fun time to go see stuff you hadn't seen before together and to hang out. It'll let you guys talk about the past and talk about the future about how you'll keep in touch or maybe even establish that maybe you guys are more than friends and can work something out that way, I don't know.

It won't be the end of the world either way. You guys will be able to keep in touch very easily with the Internet and such and because you guys seem to be so close you'll find a way to make something work, because you care so much about each other.

PS9 > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:16

I had a best friend that was the love of my life too.

Not going to elaborate on how that ended, but bottom line: That shit is not ever going to happen again. No way.

D > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:18

That must suck tremendously, I'm sorry. Doesn't look like there's much you can doЧregardless, do everything you can to keep her a part of your life. Friends come easy, №ber-friends don't.

Leadbull > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:24

The Honda CRV is next up.

Your boy, BJR > Leadbull
04/15/2014 at 13:27

And a "nice, sporty" V6 Honda Accord EX-L for him with a sunroof.

"I work hard, I play hard down in OCEAN CITY MARYLAND."

Leadbull > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 13:33

Or a Camry Solara to IMPRESS THE BUSINESS ASSOCIATES.

BlazinAce - Doctor of Internal Combustion > Your boy, BJR
04/15/2014 at 14:29

Growing up fucking sucks, man.

Yeah, no kidding... Can't remember the last time I had people to hang out with in real life or didn't spend most of my waking time dealing with random crap. Want an advice though? Go with her to Texas. One of the things you learn growing up is that you regret the stuff you missed much more than the stuff you did, even when those didn't end as you were expecting.